Once you've checked the "Disable CSS and JS" option, you will be able to manually enqueue your own sharing js and css files.
Jetpack uses the WP_SHARING_PLUGIN_URL
constant to build the path to load the libraries. You could change that constant by your own when re enqueueing the sharing libraries, like so:
function tweakjp_add_sharing_js() {
wp_enqueue_script( 'sharing-js-fe', YOUR_OWN_WP_SHARING_PLUGIN_URL . 'sharing.js', array( ), 3 );
}
add_action( 'wp_enqueue_scripts', 'tweakjp_add_sharing_js' );
function tweakjp_add_sharing_css() {
wp_enqueue_style( 'sharing', YOUR_OWN_WP_SHARING_PLUGIN_URL.'sharing.css', false, JETPACK__VERSION );
}
add_action( 'wp_enqueue_scripts', 'tweakjp_add_sharing_css' );